RE: What is a Greymuzzle?
To put my perspective out here, I agree that "greymuzzle" should be a term of respect and I'm cautious if someone self-proclaims as one.
From a community perspective, it makes more sense to me for the term to indicate the level of activity, contribution and overall support they have given - rather than the amount of time they have been in the community.
If someone has been in the community for 20+ years but has contributed little, it seems silly (perhaps even hazardous) to use the term for them unless there's something else to help substantiate. Do they help newer members understand the history of the community, or have the helped others overcome some of the issues within the therian experience? Do they actively try to build the community rather than sort of just exist within it?
Most importantly, do they worry more about whether they are considered a greymuzzle, or do they try to find ways to use the respect they've earned toward further benefitting the community?
Though it's rare for me to observe such, it's difficult for me to see someone call himself or herself a greymuzzle without me saying "How are you currently working to benefit the community?" Just saying you're a greymuzzle sort of asserts that you demand respect or for people to listen, which isn't always in the best interest of those within the interaction.
Beyond that, if someone has supported the community in various ways in the past but has stopped doing so, I can understand that a degree of respect may be expected toward the individual but find it hazardous for anyone to expect contemporary members to automatically submit to those individuals because of the past. "I did these things ten years ago!" shouldn't be a selling point for newer members in the community to follow the individual blindly.
All that said, I've jokingly called myself such in the past, mostly without realizing and respecting the term as it is nuanced in the therian community (it seems to carry less weight in the furry circles I've been involved in throughout the past, where saying you're a greymuzzle because you're older than a bulk of the community seems acceptable and more cutesy).
After being called out from someone by using the term in the therian community, it struck me; why would someone really feel the need to use the title to describe himself or herself (outside, again, trying to be cutesy or funny)? Without proper context, now I almost view the term as I do when someone appears out of the blue and claims to be "alpha" - is it an attempt at asserting dominance or control? Not always, but it raises a red flag for me.
I suppose this is where it makes more sense to evaluate an individual's nature, actions, interactions and history rather than to jump to any conclusions about them because of a title, whether it's self-given or even given by the community.
If someone feels the need to say "I'm a greymuzzle" (unless I'm certain it's in a joking manner), my mind almost always seems to go to "What are you trying to pull?" X3 Is it a power move or an ego stroke? Is it really just a playful joke? It can be very difficult to distinguish, especially over online media.
Realizing that different personalities are about, I suppose I'd expect someone who's truly earned the title to have a sense of humbleness to go along with it.
- ZN
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