Therian facebook groups, tumblr, and why you might want to stay away from them
Hello friends. I've decided to write a little article about facebook therian groups, as well as the kin community on tumblr, and why you might want to stay away from them. I'm not going to mention any names of any particular people in this thread, but I am going to talk about what you might expect when coming in contact with people who's got a negative attitude. I hope you might find it at least a little bit informative.
I've experienced a lot of things, in my nine years in the otherkin and therian communities, as well as people of different walks of life. There are good communities and then there are bad communities, and they come and go. Some stay for years, others fade away quite fast. However, they all tend to share one universal rule; They keep their members protected, safe. Things are moderated, and the staff will step in if things turn into a fuss.
This is why communities such as forums are good, because people are often treated with respect, no matter what their belief system is, as long as it isn't a harmful one. Keep your belief, don't shove it on others, and you'll be fine.
People are most likely not going to point fingers at you, bully you, or act as if they were better than you, simply because such an attitude wouldn't be allowed on most forums.
However... In all my nine years, I've never experienced anything quite like sites such as tumblr or therian facebook groups. Being poorly moderated, it is a place where people with an elitist attitude will gather. They will mock. They will point fingers. Because they have the option to do so. I've seen therians judge otherkin, otherkin judge fictionkin, trolls judging all of the communities, and vice versa. It's online abuse, plain and simple. It has never happened to myself, but I see it happening to others on a daily basis.
Thus it creates drama. And even when you're not a part of it, just being in the group where it happens, and seeing people being mocked for just little things is somethig that will get to you, after a while. It is tiredsome, it is annoying, and it makes you feel so old and mature compared to these people who are supposed to be ten years older than you. And as you continue watching their behaviour, you get the feeling that these people believe they have the privilege to act this way simply because they have been in the community longer than you.
Yes, therianthropy has its basic definition and guidelines. But at the same time, it might be experienced differently between all of us. And if someone experiences therianthropy differently from the norm, let them be, do not surround them like hungry wolves. Do not make a fuss out of it.
Relax, breath, inform. Move on. Do not chase people away, simply because they experience therianthropy a bit differently. I personally do not like seeing where the kin/therian community is headed. People are becoming so full of themselves these days that it's easy not to feel safe anywhere.
Sites such as tumblr is a great site for social networking. However, being poorly moderated, it is often used for internet bullying. This happens a lot in the otherkin tag. If you are young, sensetive, or get hurt easily, I wouldn't join tumblr if you want to come into contact with the otherkin community. Besides, there really isn't such a thing as a "community" on tumblr.
Same can be said for many therian/kin groups of facebook... There's a lot of favoritism and elitism on many of those groups. A lot of drama debates usually happens, and people are hurt or chased away, and it might just be for little, harmless reasons. To some people, therianthropy seems to be a religion, and mercy be upon those who's therianthropy might be a bit different from the norm. ... It's ridiculous.
You shouldn't waste your time on people like that, but it's hard when they are found in almost every kin community online. This is why it is important to find a community where this kind of behaviour is not tolerated, a community that suits peoples needs.
Unity is important.
~ Humility, compassion, kindness. These are things that go togheter well. ~