Thank you, Ill be on the look out. don't worry about me

(2016-08-01 7:05)Lupa Wrote:  

Quote:I am always ashamed, saddened, what have you that it took me 18 to awaken, stop suppressing myself.

I know this is kinda off-topic, but I just keep thinking about this everytime I see your name somewhere. Don't feel ashamed. Cliché I know, but it's better late than never. I'm a late bloomer myself in several ways and always have been. Looking back on my life I now realise how many things I have misses because of my own incapabilities.
It hurts, but it has made me more determined to make the best out of the days still to come. At my own pace I try to live my life in a way I can enjoy it. Don't let shame or sadness rule your life, please. There's so much more to it than that. For you and for everyone else on here.

HI,

When I first started to read that I thought maybe I had done something wrong. Perhaps making it "too much about me". I have a tendency to do that sometimes. So I am sorry for that.

I know this too is off topic, but I really do appreciate your support. We can't turn back time and change the past. But it's almost a case if we could, would we? I mean, if I had awakened say in 2005 would it have been better or worse? I don't know to be honest.

I could rack my brain on the issue. But it doesn't help me. I know I need to focus on the past to learn from it for my Therianthropy. But aside from that, leave what's there, there and how things have transpired have happened. Realizing I cannot change it. I can feel sad how it happened. But it did.

I really do appreciate your reply. Thank you ever so much.

-Lee

Quote:I am always ashamed, saddened, what have you that it took me 18 to awaken, stop suppressing myself.

I know this is kinda off-topic, but I just keep thinking about this everytime I see your name somewhere. Don't feel ashamed. Cliché I know, but it's better late than never. I'm a late bloomer myself in several ways and always have been. Looking back on my life I now realise how many things I have misses because of my own incapabilities.
It hurts, but it has made me more determined to make the best out of the days still to come. At my own pace I try to live my life in a way I can enjoy it. Don't let shame or sadness rule your life, please. There's so much more to it than that. For you and for everyone else on here.

(2016-07-31 20:40)Sahkari Wrote:  I don't understand the RESEARCH part of this.

I think Shmi meant by that was research animals until there's no more animals to research. Find out about every likely canididate so you can match up what fits you best.

And also, there's no end to it. You will constantly, constantly have to keep learning and finding out new things, analyzing yourself, etc.

So yeah that's what I think she meant.

I don't understand the RESEARCH part of this.

(2016-07-31 9:39)DustWolf Wrote:  And given the way our community works, I'm sure you understand that lying is not well accepted here.

I agree Dusty. I think in any community, lying is not good. Even in real life, lying is not appreciated. Just lying in general!

(2016-07-31 4:29)coffeebear Wrote:  I think the assumption is that a determined ten year old will not be honest with their birthdate.

We can tell anyway.

And given the way our community works, I'm sure you understand that lying is not well accepted here.

LP,
Dusty

Hi,

While I too agree there should be a minimum age. There is a divide. Maybe it's not one that happens often.

I originally awoke at 14, however that was in 1998. This site wasn't around, that was probably the alt.horror.werewolves days.

I am always ashamed, saddened, what have you that it took me 18 to awaken, stop suppressing myself. But there is a split to this.

I wasn't even mature at the slightest to begin to grasp Therianthropy at 14, my Aspergers caused a gap in my physical age and mental age of about 5 years. So if I was physically 14, my mental age was about 10 to 11 years old. I don't think I would have had the mental wherewithal to process what I was and what was going on. Now I don't think say in 2005 when things really cranked up, I was 21, I could have at that time. But alas, more fears, suppression, etc...

So for me, where most go through all this and seek it at 14, I began at 30. So most of the people I encounter like myself, in that same stage of learning were 14-18 year Olds.

Because really whether one awakens at 14 and immediately searches or waits, suppresses/denies and doesn't do it til 30, the outcome is the same.

Just like someone who waits to drive til they're 40, they might have more maturity mentally. But they still lack the overall knowledge, experience of most people their age, so in that and this, age doesn't matter. The knowledge, experience is the same, no matter the age.

Even if there is a 18-20 year gap between myself and those in the same place in life.

-Lee

(2016-07-29 15:20)Calico Wrote:  

(2016-07-29 15:19)Sahkari Wrote:  Since every age can access the internet; what happens if some, IDK, ten year old signs up to TG?

Their account will not be activated until their thirteenth birthday, assuming they return to make a new intro at that time.

I think the assumption is that a determined ten year old will not be honest with their birthdate.

(2016-07-30 14:43)Scratchy Wrote:  Nice guide Shmi! This helps a lot with my discovery.

Thank you! I'm glad it's helped