(2021-03-30 4:37)Tdae Wrote: [ -> ](2021-03-29 23:23)Saoirse Fiain Wrote: [ -> ]It's a sticky situation, that's for sure. I've been harassed for pointing out things such as "typing quirks" which seems to be the new hip and cool trend on the net. One person in a server that I'm in has their alter, or as they call it, "headmate" replace letters with numbers making the words hard as hell to read. When I asked them to type normally I was told that "they can't control it" and that I was gatekeeping.
It's things like this that make me skeptical of every person I meet who says that they have alters. I know there are people out there who really do have DID, and to those who do, you have my condolences, having to deal with fakers and liars and all. I suppose this is kind of swaying off topic, but I do find that the people who fake having alternate personalities and the people who require that you use CWs and TWs tend to be in the same crowd.[...]
If a person has DID and is serious about about treatment, then any (capable) alter is responsible for the system. They are responsible for their alters' actions even if they cannot control or cannot remember. They are responsible for learning to gain better communication and cooperation and helping the ones that have trauma/behavior issues.
Different alters in a system might have different language styles and different levels of skills at typing. But I think someone using numbers instead of letters and refusing to type clearly because "they can't control it" is just being an ass. There could be some genuine reason the alter likes to type in a cryptic way, but even if it's genuine they're clearly not trying to figure it out.
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There's the slimmest chance the typing quirk thing traces back to Homestuck somehow. Which... I guess all things considered, if I tried to picture where the average person-who-was-a-little-too-into-Homestuck would be these days, I could pretty easily believe "somehow involved in DID spaces" as one of the options.
I mean how widespread is that as a thing, though? Like... I don't know, I guess I just don't go to all the same corners of the internet as y'all.
Look, I'm generally a patient coyote. If someone does something and it doesn't hurt me, I'll be hard-pressed to care all that much. If someone asks me to do something small, and it doesn't take me out of my way to do it, then sure, no fur off my back to do it. My experience has been, generally, I stay pretty agreeable, folks respond to that. I can believe that people who would turn a small mistake into a huge problem are out there (or like, people who misapply concerns to places that don't really make sense if you put any thought into it), but I guess I've been lucky to not really encounter them much.
Generally speaking, for the sorts of things that I couldn't reasonably ever expect anyone else to know would upset me, because it's tied to personal stuff, of course I'm not gonna get mad at someone if they didn't give me a heads up about it first. That's my responsibility to step back a second and keep hold of myself. That being said, I dunno, most of how I see TW stuff is just... pretty straightforward? Like, images of violence, NSFW stuff, the sorts of things where it makes sense to give a more general heads up. Again, maybe I'm just not in the right places to see folks taking things to an extreme, but... the ways I've seen it deployed seem to be pretty reasonable. It's not that weird to take into account the audience you're speaking to before you figure out exactly how you're going to say the thing you want to say -- I see this as largely an extension of that.